Monday, May 21, 2007

Everybody has an opinion

When you have your first child, you find out how many "experts" in child rearing there are...and its not just your friends and family, but total strangers will even give you there expert advice. Many people who know what you should do, don't even have children. Isn't it funny. It has been very interesting with the twins. What works well with one child will probably not work with 2. I've learned to smile, nod my head and ignore most of what other people say, suggest, or push on me. the only people I really pay attention to are those who have multiples, they have been where I am and I hope to learn from them, maybe avoid some mistakes.

I wish that I had researched how to raise twins while pregnant. I naively thought I knew what to do. I read the book "Baby Wise" when the twins were 6 weeks old. Many of the principles were in place, but some where not. Like keeping them awake after feeding them. That is still so hard! Some of my family think I'm crazy for bathing a sleeping baby. But this book says that over 90% of infants sleep through the night by 12 weeks of age if you follow there advice. I'm hanging on to this as I try any and everything to wake my sleeping baby during "wake time" and listening to my babies cry them selves to sleep during "sleep time". They are still not sleeping through night, but we're hoping. They'll be 9 weeks old tomorrow and I return to work in 4 weeks. Please Lord, let them sleep through the night by then, amen!

A friend suggested "Baby Whisperer" as a gentler approach that is similar to "Baby Wise". This book promises to help you learn your infants cry so you will know if they are hungry, lonely, bored, in pain, etc. We're thinking about ordering this book. The more info the better, right!??! Beau is just going with the flow and praying for sleep too.

The twins had they're first shots Friday, and we've had a weekend of fussiness, sleepiness, and fever. It's even harder to implement the Baby Wise principles when you know they don't feel well, and your family is here and hold the baby... Beau was at kids camp with the church, so avoided it all.

Elizabeth will have an ultrasound of her hip on Wednesday. We're checking for hip displasia, she has more creases on one thigh than the other. This apparently can indicate a problem. I'm not worried. I believe she is fine, and if there is a problem, it's no big deal. (I worried so much during the pregnancy, and know that this changes nothing, and wastes energy and is a poor witness for the hope I have in Christ) Yea, I'm making progress in my walk, thank you Jesus!

Thank God for Cole, all twins should come with 12 y/o. He is such a huge help!!! Even now as I write, he is holding Kade. I didn't even have to ask him to, he is singing and playing with him. What a blessing he is to me and the twins!!! He has even changed a few diapers, wonders never cease.

Walk on the wild side have twins.

1 comment:

trisha3blessed said...

Jodi, I know the awesome feel of God's hands around me and I pray you and your family have the same gloriuos blessing EVERY DAY!
Love always, Trisha