Ok...i have a confession to make. Last week I got MAD at Beau (my husband and parenting partner of almost 20 years, and my best friend). I got totally fed up. I'm not perfect and neither is he. I was determined to get his attention and make him wake up and change. How did I decide to accomplish this...I took the twins to the beach, by myself. I was going to let him experience what life would be without me and the twins. Of course, I left Quinn the 13 y/o with him and Cole is at boarding school.
WHAT WAS I THINKING??? I had planned to leave Thursday afternoon and return home Monday afternoon. I ended up leaving Friday am. After 2 and 1/2 NONSTOP days with 2 very active, happy, strong willed 5 year olds (who wake up at 0630)...I came home Sunday afternoon. I'm not sure what Beau learned (though he said he missed us very much). But I learned that I do not want to be a single parent, that what is a game breaker has not happened, and that my husband is a great (if not perfect) guy. I also realised how very far I fall short of who I want to be, who my husband and children need me to be, and that Beau has always been in my corner.
I don't know if he will change any of the behaviors that made me mad. But I am working on changing me (the only person that I can actually change). My limits as a parent and wife are greater than i thought, I will not be a single parent (unless by death), that I am blessed with happy, healthy, smart kids!
FYI PARENTING TEENS IS MUCH MORE DIFFICULT THAN KINDERGARTNER'S!!!